tonight on the terrace
when the summer birds fly due north
the arrow of their formation
unbreaking, sterile, white
and the night sky overwhelmed with twinkling dots and charcoal secrets
gives way -
plunging down below into you
stunning you into remorse that you thought you'd never feel again
look to the farthest corner
far from the madding crowd
the blackness will be marred with dawning pinkness grey
and the walls that were closing in before
will be a little farther away
you'll know it's an illusion
you'll know it alright
you'll run towards it nevertheless
the frozen, hanging droplets just beyond your reach
alluring, beckoning
i'll be there awhile
grasping grasping grasping
Heard in the newsroom:
A colleague (yelling): I'm free! Gimme some briefs.
Another colleague: I'll go down. Why are you laughing guys? SC asked me to go down.
For the uninitiated:
A "brief" is a gist of important headlines in a bullet-point format.
"Going down" refers to checking back on a list of press releases - which come in a whoosh, at certain times - to see if any news is missed.
I had the strangest, most wonderful dream last night. Dreams, actually. Slightly unconnected, somewhat fragmented, a little elusive, wonderful nevertheless. They were about a guy I once dated and thought loved (and who still has a thing for me), a guy who I shared crackling chemistry with, and a guy who wanted badly to get into my pants. Exciting, eh? Well, read on.
So there are cool, damp, green meadows, a muddy game of football and us. The guy I once dated and I, that is. We just happened to be at the same game together and he is as surprised to see me as I him. There's an initial awkwardness which is wholly eclipsed by our pleasure in seeing each other again. The game is short, exciting and by the end of it we are a bunch of exceedingly dirty but happy guys. The guy I once dated asks me if I will go back home with him to clean up. (Warning: this does not get raunchy if that is what you are expecting.) I agree and off we go to his house where his parents welcome me like I'm their long lost daughter. And later bitch about how their son's relationship with his girlfriend is a pain. It's always good to hear that, though things could never have worked out between us.
The other dream involves all 3 men and a date at Kookie Jar, which is a terrific cake-shop in Calcutta, but which has conveniently transplanted itself to Bangalore. So I have a date with the guy who badly wanted to get into my pants and he is late. I'm waiting and who do I see? The guy who I shared crackling chemistry with! And we have some fun flirting. We always do. It's almost better than the real thing, this terse, witty, sexy exchange of words. And then suddenly I spot the guy I once dated coming in through the door. Followed closely by the guy who badly wanted to get into my pants. Had I died and gone to heaven? Obviously in dreams you don't have to deal with the awkwardness or the confusion of being put in one room with such 3 guys. So I conveniently ditch my date (who I actually don't like much) and leave him with the guy I shared crackling chemistry with. Well they happen to know each other...I'm not that heartless. And I go dig into some awesome cake with the guy I once dated.
Somewhat of an anticlimax, huh? What were you thinking, you dirty minds? But yes, the dream left me very happy and got me blogging after so many days. I don't know what it all means. But it's definitely telling me that I'm missing that guy I once dated. And thought I loved.
So I know this can't be some mid-life crisis. Why not? Simply because mid-life is far away. I hope. But I've been in this nasty mood today. Like a really mean one. And I think it's been piling up for a while now. And it just all came out today. Was decidedly nasty to S. And then when I apologised later he seemed to have things to say. And though some of it sounded right he just managed to piss me off further.
Marriage is a strange thing. The good the bad the understanding the fights the love the insanity. The tiredness. Of it all.
I'm 27. Only. Only? And it just all seems so rehearsed, so unspontaneous. Already. And I jumped into it. No pushing. What can I say? That I didn't see it coming? That I thought I'd change? Morph into a placid, understanding wife who thinks about her husband, the house, investments and responsibilities all day through? That I wouldn't miss the fun, the excitement of being single? Of feeling truly alive? Fuck it, of sleeping with a new guy every month??
Maybe S feels the same way. Maybe it's just a part of adult life. Maybe he wants to do the same things that I do and is feeling as suffocated as I am. But you know what? For once all I want to tell him is: Screw you! Go get a life and give me back mine!
I told you I was in a vile mood.
...and that's that. And I don't care what people think, because it's my life after all.
Oh ok, I'll stop being so dramatic. It's just a haircut. I chopped off "all that lovely hair" (friend's lament) while I was in Calcutta, but was a little unprepared for the violent reactions at home AND work.
Ma, who had been there with me at the salon was bawling like a fisherwoman while my sister laughed her guts out. She was wholly supportive of it. My sister, that is. The only one other than S. She says I look more trendy now. Not the aunty that I have been the last couple of years anymore. S said he preferred the long hair, but had to admit that this haircut wasn't bad at all. That's actually huge coming from him.
My Dad's yet to see it and I'm not looking forward to that.
But my friends, colleagues and other relatives are a wholly different matter.
"You used to look soooo nice." Ummm, thanks.
"What's gotten into you??" The Devil himself, didn't you know?
"So didn't S have a coronary?" Well actually, no.
"Eyyyybaba, oto shundor chul tor! Kete phelli?" Koi, na toh! Oma, lukiye rekhechi, dekhte paccho na bujhi?
"Akhon bujhchhish na, kodin porei mone hobe...jokhon lomba hotei chaibe na, tokhon." Sheta amake bujhte dilei bhalo hoy na?
"Dude, you looked so hot with that hair! Not to say you don't now, but..." Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.
What say? Should I??
He picks you up from work and chatters all the way back home, an incessant, sometimes irritating, chatter. And when you get home and turn the tap on to find no water, you grumble, and he prances downstairs (mostly) to put the pump on. And then when you poke inside the refrigerator thinking up culinary delights, he tells you to make the simplest thing possible. And then he puts his work on hold and goes and chops the onions, without which you just couldn't cook, but which you just cannot chop with eyes open. And he talks some more and you think to yourself, will he never stop? Or you just zone out and think other things. He keeps coming back to the kitchen while you are cooking just to keep you company. And when the food is made, he oohs and aahs over it, no matter how disgusting it tastes (which isn't often). And then he cuddles you when you go to bed and you grumble, wanting to be left alone with your book. And he grumbles that you have no time for him, so you put down the book and grumble some more.
Now that he is far away (okay, okay, for like 2 weeks), but far away nevertheless, you don't feel like cooking anymore. Who'll chop the onions? And you've got to run the water yourself. And remember those times you fought over the car, threatening to buy another one the next day? Well, you wish he'd come to pick you up from work, and chatter on non stop. The short drive home's so lonely and even the usually peaceful dogs outside the house bark at you. The house is so dead. You have your book, your television, all the time in the world to watch movies or blog, but you'd rather just have him clowning around. And when you turn off the lights and the other side of the bed's cold and empty, you know you'd throw away all your books, if you just had his warm arms around you; you'd give anything for his silly childish jokes, and to kiss him, and to curl up in a ball against him and sleep a good night's sleep.
Merrill Lynch, Lehman Bros., AIG, WaMu...just another day at work.